Social Taboos

Recently i read this really intriguing article in Mail Today regarding "Girl Taboos".

Now a "Taboo" is a strong social prohibition (or ban) against words, objects, actions, discussions, or people that are considered undesirable or offensive by a group, culture, or society.

The article enlisted some of the things that are supposedly considered to be "immoral" if indulged in by women. Things like :

Drinking - all the females who have tried buying hard drinks from a liquor shop will relate to this, coz its certainly not easy and the experience doesn't come without it's share of embarrassment. The shop owner stares as if he has seen a ghost and gives those disgusting looks... Ewww... will give unnecessary advices as if he's the most learned man on the face of the earth. This is just the "buying" part.. Many sections of the society are still not used to female drinkers. And anyone who does is considered to be "easy n sleazy". Fancy judging people based on their drinking habits...weird!!

Smoking- now this is considered to be a male only domain. And the society seemed to have developed a mentality that if a man is smoking, he must be stressed out n tensed but if a woman smokes,its not only against the "rules" of the society but its also not justifiable...weird!!

Late night working hours- i wonder why this medieval thinking still persists, but then a woman working late is totally unacceptable. If a man comes home late, the family is forced/made to believe that he is working his butt off in the office as he is the so called "bread winner"..!! But if a woman comes home late, she does not enjoy the same, she is asked a million questions and she is at the receiving end of comments like "aisa kya kaam hai"...weird!!

Now if we were to enlist the "Male Taboos", things that males can't/aren't supposed to/should not do, then it would be as follows :

Helping with household chores- i do admit that the trend has seen a 180 degree flip, but trust me, it's not much of a consolation. Mothers still expect a daughter to learn all the cooking/cleaning/doing dishes crap, while a son can just throw his weight around. A man is just not supposed to do those things, coz supposedly he's cut out for bigger things....bullshit...!!!

Buying female brassiere- there are two breeds of men under this one. The first one is the loaded boyfriend, one who accompanies his girl on her bikini shopping spree and chooses what he wants to see her in. This guy is brash and takes no pain in hiding his interest in any part of the female anatomy. Lets concentrate on the second breed ( one who i really wanna talk about). This is the shy married guy who has an equally shy wife. The wife cant go and buy "the thing" herself and so she asks "him" to do the job for her, giving him a brief detail of what she wants. The guy has no option but to go to the nearby undergarments shop, he stands there hoping that a higher power will draw the attendants attention to him and then he gives even a briefer specification of "the thing", grabs the first thing that the person on the other side of the counter shows him and rushes back home...!! This in a country where almost every such shop has a MALE attendant...!!!

Crying- now now, a man cant cry...he's the tougher gender and is always expected to show courage and endure pain with a smile on his face. So the guys have no option but to indulge in this act in private...!!!

Now i would love to carry on with this society bashing, but am feeling damn sleepy...so gotta hit the sack.

And yeah one more thing, has anyone noticed how men just unabashedly touch their private parts in public...!!!! They just go on playing with their tools, totally unconcerned with what others will think. If they feel like scratching, they'll scratch. If they feel like masturbating in public, they'll go on and do the same. I mean, it may be comforting for their soul, but is not meant for public display. Societies across the world consider this to be the most inappropriate thing a human being can indulge in. Touching yourself in public is so not happening. I am yet to come across a woman who does that, but maybe i never will, coz females aren't made that way...they are cut out for bigger things ..(wink)

P.S. The last part was not an attack on the whole of the male community, it was just meant for those who do it( and who'll never read this post)

Signing off...

Happy Place..

"Happy Place : The dictionary meaning says its a place inside us all where we are happy... places that are insulated from the shit heads that make up just about everyone we encounter".

But now that I've the liberty to improvise on this.... I'll go ahead and do just what i intend to...
Now, " My Happy Place" is not just about hiding away from the world.. Its about writing/sharing what i really feel.. Its about losing inhibitions and being comfortable with what i really am rather than donning the garb of a stranger, not having to think about what others might think of my viewpoint ( coz hey, its my world...!!)

Lemme just elucidate the point with two completely unrelated things-
I am sure many of us find ourselves in a tight spot at some point of our lives, be it the situation when we are caught drunk by our parents(problem 1) or we find ourselves in company of someone who represents that section of the society that we loathe(problem 2)...

Way out :(1) The last thing one would do is admitting the damn thing that "yes, i am drunk" coz thats guaranteed to even worsen the situation... But thats exactly what we should do, i mean just come out with the truth rather than fabricating a lame story. This is exactly what a happy place is all about... I mean, someplace where you do some god damn fucking thing and then go ahead and admit it and don't give a fuck about the consequences ( given the fact that you had the guts to do that thing, simply proves that you were mentally ready to face the heat)

(2) We don't like that person but are still putting up with their shitty ugly faces.. Now thats equivalent to living a lie.. I mean, if you don't like him/her, you go ahead and tell them what you feel rather than dying a slow death everyday. Coz bearing with someone just for the sake of maintaining peace is outrageous and its certainly not worth it. Trust me on this one, coz I've been there and done that.

See, I made a point here and a pretty serious one (...am laughing my guts out right now...but hey, that doesnt mean i am not serious..!!)
And again,this is what a happy place is all about, living your life the way you want to rather than being dictated/ patronized by pretentious fools.

ZZzzzzz....... signing off...

P.S. I do admit that the post is completely mindless and no one benefits anything out of this, but then hey, do people ever listen to anyone...!!! And i am no exception.... ciao.

The first post....

Now was this tough or what.... I've created some 3 blogs in the past but as they progressed, so did my frustration... and they all ended up "DELETED".
Now maybe this is just one of those promises that are not meant to be kept, but i do hope that my mounting mental disorders don't get the better of me this time and "My Happy Place" stays happy and gay forever (no pun intended)...
Ciao for now...